There are the changes that we expect like say getting older and there are the changes that come out of nowhere (eg. unexpected death of a loved one or loss of a job). Either way, change can be difficult. As human beings, we crave routine and stability as it provides us comfort and certainty. We believe that certainty will solve the questions in our heart and that knowing will provide us rest. However, life doesn’t always work with what we know, need to know, or want to know. In fact, life isn’t about acquiring knowledge. It’s about surrendering to experience and experience teaches us that many things are out of our hands and if we are wise, it would be to learn that we realize how little we do know what lies ahead and how much can we surrender for today as is.
We can’t control others, life events, or even our circumstances. Surely, we can have an influence by the power of our choices and surely, we shouldn’t leave things up to chance but we can’t control our external world as tightly as we would like. However, we burn and stress ourselves out trying to hold it altogether. Instead, the safety and security we are truly looking for can only be found within, where God lies, in the center of our being and in the present moment. The present moment is where grace, truth, freedom, and wisdom lies. And residing in the moment doesn’t mean we are perfect at dealing with change or that we are absolved from the human experience. Rather, instead, residing in the moment allows grace, space, and timelessness in the unfolding of events for God to do his will and for us to continue returning to the now to surrender when we get off balance. Only by being here can we become conscious enough to heed the gentle nudges of where God is guiding us and where we can accept more the unacceptable changes that life brings.